English Reflections 2
I refer to the article titled “Are parents too soft on their children?” (http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/news/story/0,4136,130518,00.html)
This article mainly talks about a case whereas a junior colleague student from one of the premier schools in Singapore, in this case Hwa Chong institution, allegedly punching the bus driver in the face after his girlfriend’s EZ-link was retained. The incident was verified by many passengers on board of the bus and raised many public discussions. After the incident, instead of the attacking student apologizing, the father of his fell to his knees, begging for forgiveness.
In the driver’s perspective, I believe that he was just following the rules and there is nothing wrong about his actions for stopping the student.
In my opinion, this reflects clearly the sign of over-protection from children towards their children nowadays. Pushing all the blame to yourself when you’re not the person that started it? That’s just ridiculous.
Teenagers being irresponsible nowadays for their actions and thinking that nothing will happen to them even if they do something wrong are just results of parents being over-protective. From young as teenagers make mistakes, over-protective parents would always cover up for them with a simple but dangerous two words ‘it’s okay’. This leads to a mindset of theirs thinking that anything wrong I do, parents would always cover up for them. And in this case of hitting the bus driver, the student having a protecting father obviously never thought of the consequences of his actions as he send that blow to the driver.
However, as the article mentioned, 'What if the father took a Rotan and beat up his 17-year-old son? Are we also going to say he did the wrong thing?' This then made me agree with the say ‘it takes two hands to clap’. In my opinion, the father should neither take up the blame nor push all the blame to the son by whacking him up. Instead, he should just simply do nothing; let the son learn from it no matter whose blame it is. For I also believe that, the harder the fall, the more you’ll remember it.
Lastly, I believe that all parents love their children by nature. By over-protecting, the parents of this case simply do not want their child to come to any harm. By hitting their children whenever they make mistakes are just signs that they want their children to learn from their mistakes faster and as such not commit it again. Only when one balance these two extreme cases of the parents and make a balance out of them, one love them in the correct and best way.
This article mainly talks about a case whereas a junior colleague student from one of the premier schools in Singapore, in this case Hwa Chong institution, allegedly punching the bus driver in the face after his girlfriend’s EZ-link was retained. The incident was verified by many passengers on board of the bus and raised many public discussions. After the incident, instead of the attacking student apologizing, the father of his fell to his knees, begging for forgiveness.
In the driver’s perspective, I believe that he was just following the rules and there is nothing wrong about his actions for stopping the student.
In my opinion, this reflects clearly the sign of over-protection from children towards their children nowadays. Pushing all the blame to yourself when you’re not the person that started it? That’s just ridiculous.
Teenagers being irresponsible nowadays for their actions and thinking that nothing will happen to them even if they do something wrong are just results of parents being over-protective. From young as teenagers make mistakes, over-protective parents would always cover up for them with a simple but dangerous two words ‘it’s okay’. This leads to a mindset of theirs thinking that anything wrong I do, parents would always cover up for them. And in this case of hitting the bus driver, the student having a protecting father obviously never thought of the consequences of his actions as he send that blow to the driver.
However, as the article mentioned, 'What if the father took a Rotan and beat up his 17-year-old son? Are we also going to say he did the wrong thing?' This then made me agree with the say ‘it takes two hands to clap’. In my opinion, the father should neither take up the blame nor push all the blame to the son by whacking him up. Instead, he should just simply do nothing; let the son learn from it no matter whose blame it is. For I also believe that, the harder the fall, the more you’ll remember it.
Lastly, I believe that all parents love their children by nature. By over-protecting, the parents of this case simply do not want their child to come to any harm. By hitting their children whenever they make mistakes are just signs that they want their children to learn from their mistakes faster and as such not commit it again. Only when one balance these two extreme cases of the parents and make a balance out of them, one love them in the correct and best way.
posted by BONG at
3:49 AM
1 Comments:
think that it's good you talk about the parental perspective!
also could think about why the person's school was mentioned--is there this assumption that intelligence=knowing how to behave?
would it have made less of an impact if it was a neighbourhood school?
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